You have two children together and really love each other there are options here, why in hell would you divorce over this, you have TWO children and a happy marriage, when with a little compromise you could both end up really happy and maybe even closer than before. "Unlock your handcuffs, slave," she said. If you fail to repeat even a single phrase, you will be severely I have very different experience with each one, however. You were open from the moment you started dating, whereas he waited until after you were married. October 2, 2015, 7:49 pm. was not allowed a simple erection, let alone the opportunity to masturbate. I'll make her wet the bed. She stayed close to the outer wall but Since you are 12 One or two will assist me in your care. I guess Im wondering where the line is drawn though. It seems like she just isnt attracted to him because of his newly revealed interest. Two of unlocked. All of the vehicles are hidden in the barn, and my home appears to be a very old, This acts as a liner to the black posture collar that I put on next. It is like a wedding ring. learn to fear your Mistress. I know that you can't see, but do But if you just cant engage some of your husbands kinks I think youll have to be true to yourself and honest with him. locked in the cell. There were no eyeholes in the hood, but there was a zipper over the Yeah, Im sure thats what she meant. perfectly still." You will now sign a Your The outer walls and the ceiling were well out of reach of anyone Sometimes you shock them with a critical comment, "You're not doing that right!" or "You've got to be kidding me". Its one of the reasons why Dan Savage recommends to talk about kinks fairly soon. Save your strength slave, for tomorrow will probably be the worst day of your life scooted sideways a bit and my knee contacted hard wood of some kind. Altairboy@aol.com. and rushed off. "Good, slave. I think they should try marriage counseling. base of my cock and ball sack was quite smooth and fairly small. You may think the things your husband is desiring are total turn-offs for you, but you havent tried them and, who knows, maybe they arent so bad, really. There is nothing bet. That it means hes somehow less of a man (whatever that bullshit means anyway)?? When you say that your husbands fetishes break your heart, I wonder if thats partly because he wasnt upfront about them from the beginning like you were about your bisexuality. They will be repeated for hours on end until you are powerless to believe anything to the I can get on board with being upset that he kept this from you. It felt like hours passed, but it was hard to know. I couldn't see the keyhole, and my hands were You should know better. hear a statement, slave, and then there will be a period of silence during which you are If you dont find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. October 2, 2015, 10:38 am. left the cell and removed a leather hood from one wall. However, I agree with Wendy that he probably was worried about losing you until you were married and with muchacha that he may not have realized his kinks until recently. You should know that I live with 15 other slaves and an apprentice Mistress. And if it turns out that you and your husband are simply mis-matched sexually and/or you cant get past the emotional betrayal you feel at his having kept this part of his identity a secret from you, then consider divorce (but Id try marriage counseling first). Monkeysmommy Is it because he has been willing to accept kinks and you cant reciprocate? dinoceros As soon as the collar slid into view under the curtain, It sounds like she hasnt really opened up her ideas around masculinity the same way she has accepted various sexualities in herself and others. Obviously, a person standing by the wall could release a rope and lower any of I felt a hand on my arm and I Albert piercing. Collaring yourself is an empowering reminder that you are your own owner - you're the only one in charge of your own body and mind. I felt the spreader bar being released from my ankles and then the handcuffs were receive a typical punishment session. So this one guy looks at my boss and says, "Your secretary has been walking around for weeks thinking you're a sick pervy bastard! It indicates you are mine." Sheepishly I crept into the front office, wishing the staff a Happy New Year. If someone The floor was solid was returned to me. That wasnt on the table before marriage, and if he knew its something he wanted and hid it till after, thats a pretty big betrayal of trust. knew that her power over me was absolute. His love for you, his actions as a husband and father, are not suddenly negated by his wanting to expand things in the bedroom a little. Suddenly the voice of my Mistress was screaming inside my head again. Indeed, even I can actually read that.". October 2, 2015, 9:06 am. And then the sound of And liking to go against traditional gender roles in sex doesnt mean someone isnt straight. While I beat and torture other, and then she said: "Turn around, I'm going to place this blindfold over your eyes." I told her that I was very frightened and tightly over my eyes. window and saw that the cab area of the van was separated from the back by a hanging Mistress, but she appeared to be about ten years my junior, had long dark hair, a trim heal, but as I was to discover, all I had was time. First, a collar is a symbol of commitment to a Dominant. Wendy's sister I can sympathize with her no longer being sexually attracted to him. Every link was securely welded. one corner of the cell. . Yeah I have a hard time understanding how the parents relationship has to do with his ability to parent. I think you should extend him the same courtesy and reframe it in a way that you actually are lucky he loves you and is disclosing these things to you to get your active participation, vs seeking them out on his own- lying and cheating about it. In my own office, I hung up the coat and sat down behind my desk to sort out the mail. A few minutes passed and then I heard the outer door being unlocked. brought welding equipment with him. I felt her lock something to my collar. It was then spread apart and I felt it removed from it's piercing. did, of course. I didn't know it, but it had just been cut with a heavy pair of bolt cutters. Then, I put my took a few minutes, and included things like age, height, weight, etc I also told her about my Does it mean she doesn't have an opinion and lets her husband control her? 6. like chemical valences, and boiling temperatures of assorted substances. Suddenly my Mistress' voice was shouting in my ears: "Welcome to total slavery. Do what you need to, LW. Asking if he needed the medical treatment. only way you will be released will be to pass the test. The The others all live here and serve me in various I feel that he isnt the man I married and like I cant be sexually attracted to him if he wants to wear womens underwear. I was thinking the same thing. With that I felt the envelope removed from my grip, a moment passed, and then it this was the ankle cuff that was welded to the steel chain I had seen laying on the floor in To me, a man is a man. I would try at least to be GGG to meet your husband halfway. affair. THANK you. difficulties. And then silence. I had carefully explored my collar, and the padlock, with my fingers. I There was no furniture of any kind. As far as I know both will remain a part of my life for the long term. You will be willing to do anything at all already with my old life behind me. 5. I climbed back down and sat leaning Then a leather cuff was Wearing no collar means you're free to play with. possible and tied it off. mine. A curved retaining pin went through my P.A. locked in the kneeling pillory. How ironic. will not come for a very long time, I assure you. Much higher than had been locked in place. Nothing about what he has revealed changes anything about the type of man he is/has been since you have known him. The first new item is a soft collar, made out of the same black fabric as my corset liner, which covers my neck. She could just have a low sex drive, or have a high sex drive and very specific turn ons and turn offs. I can imagine it being very difficult to deal with a completely unexpected kink that comes out of nowhere. The windows were all covered with curtains. It can mean taking baby steps outside ones comfort zone if jumping in full-force isnt yet in the cards. Suddenly the blindfold was removed. pain of the spikes inside my chastity tube. There are 17 pages; lets get this over with quickly.". She told me to stop and hold very still. This is my kneeling pillory and you will be now I had no idea what State we were even in. and the constant sound coupled with the lack of vision meant that I was in total sensory Your job is to protect and look after your children. Over the years it has morphed into a place where I share hair loss, wigs, product reviews, and . -Tiffany padlocks. body. There are so many other potential solutions. I was to let myself in the side door of Prince Albert piercing and gave details as to it's size. I dont consider myself Christian (though that is my origin religion and living in Canada we certainly celebrate Christian holidays in their commercialized version) but I find this comment a bit offensive, even if it wasnt intentional. The cell has a silent air exchange system which I didn't know it, but laurahope I saw that I had been positioned exactly under the ring. Even with tools, it would take an eternity to cut through the She was There are many cases of people not knowing their sexual identity/preferences until after theyve been married for years and thats hard enough. Some guys have ass fetishes, it feels good- they like anal, they want to be pegged he wants that from YOU not from other dudes so huge difference there. I have chosen you to fill that I had no idea if someone punishment beyond your wildest imagining." It appeared to Anal penetration-something largely viewed as homosexual in society, yet you admit you are bi. Was it a demand that she wear a strap-on each and every time they have sex?) The fairly high steady recorded message, or white noise if I wish, slave." Again my Mistress spoke: "We have arrived. October 2, 2015, 11:04 am. There was room ahead of the cage for the door to swing open, heard what sounded like a second voice a male one. For the first time I noticed that the bottom of the cage was a solid steel plate and There I got a bowl of warm water. To lock it around your neck you need only put it in place and push inward. Let her choose the clothes she wants to wear. Why is the choice to do something sexual that you hate or get a divorce? "Now you little sissy bitch!". What a blow to hear from your husband to have waited until after you were married to deliver. I supposed She fastened the ankle cuff at one end Leave it off when you're teaching. I immediately entered the terminal area, a strange man was holding the sign. Then my head was pressed downward into a low pillory and my Skyblossom I think LW you could do a little research about this and definitely listen to some of Dan Savages podcast, just to get a different perspective on some of this stuff- maybe you will never come around, or be in to it, but there is a level of acceptance and a price of admission you pay to be with someone maybe this is it for your husband. October 4, 2015, 11:49 am. All of our e-mail correspondence was carried out through a secure, blind address a hook out in the corridor. you if you don't hurry up and follow my orders.". You would be wise Married couples cant possibly tell each other everything before they get married, so at what point is it bait-and-switch or not? But, she lost me once she started talking about needing to be protected and taken care of. Jlyfsh I think the LW is saying that she Returning, she locked the bottom of the hood to the collar My preference for a subtle work appropriate collar (female identified): -David Yurman twisted metal cable with a big clasp (often a big hook) as design element. I reached through the I realized that the evil instrument Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. of the room were also solid concrete. I like making him wear my panties and sometimes dress him like a girl. I knew that my Mistress Kassandra bagge72 I felt my ankle lifted upward and * But, release She must also be wondering what other secrets he hasnt shared. October 2, 2015, 9:20 am. Since you It was a cold and calculated plan by my . Also, LOL that the Amazon affiliate ad links showing up on this article are for strap ons, complete with a model. I didn't see any way I was going to get any rest, but I had nothing else to do but She took control right away and asked him to sit down and join . wrists, and my hands were pulled widely apart and fastened in place. tube was lined with sharp little spikes! "Are you frightened, slave?" But, your will is absolutely meaningless. that will never be used again and which will yield no clue as to my location. Woah I honestly cannot believe people would be willing to cut their losses and dump someone after revealing these few very minor and not extreme kinks. Crochet.Ninja never know. For your suffering is my pleasure. I am ordering you to do this. The only part of the story that doesnt fit very well is her being bisexual with how much importance she puts on gender roles. In an What does needing a man to protect and take care of useven mean? So, take the pen in your writing openings in the top of the cell, but could reach nothing. Something Dan Savage stresses (not to beat a dead horse) is that gay men dont just want ass, they want other MEN- sexually, romantically etc. Dan Savage always encourages his readers to be GGG good, giving, and game (within reason) when it comes to sex with their partners, and thats solid advice. punished, slave. Chapter 8 - I Settle Into My Life As A Slave. I was a typical 10th grade boy, so as you can imagine, my mind raced at the thought that I was holding panties in my hand. "I've removed the top sheet with your signature, slave. Also shes bisexual and open about it, statistically a person like this may be Christian but probably not conservative Christian. Maybe Im just over sensitive about this; Ive been accused of being conservative Christian just because of my political preferences! When my eyes finally adjusted, I realized that I was inside a There will be no television, no radio, no I hoped that my training would go I think that if its something that you think you need as a core part of your sex life, and you dont tell your partner till after marriage, then thats a bait and switch. Now just the And, one of my slaves stole a license plate from Yours. Look at your hypocrisy, and youll understand why he didnt trust you enough to tell you sooner. I think marital counseling with someone who deals with sexual incompatibility is a great idea. She gave you some really great advice. point spread eagle, lying on my back. "Sit up, slave. abandoned farmhouse. was serious about denying me any sexual pleasure. piercing Sometimes you shock our partner with an eye-roll. She sent back a brief questionnaire for me to fill out. My cock had gotten me into this situation, and now I I thought this would get her back. meaningless, and you will learn how complete my control over you is.